When Life Doesn’t Make Sense

I enjoy watching movies with unexpected endings.  Often, the endings can frustrate me if they don’t work out according to the endings I had hoped for. Even so, the element of surprise is usually appreciated.

In real life, however, unexpected endings or dream-shattering endings can send me into a tailspin.2013-09-21 15.36.43

The other day I called my sister, also a realtor, and started our conversation with, “You won’t BELIEVE what just HAPPENED!” There was a moment of silence and then– laughter.  Laughter because I have started many conversations the same way. Anyone in real estate will tell you that crazy things happen.  Yes, they happen often.  I believe the same can be said about almost any industry: teachers, pastors, fast-food workers, and on and on.

If you are facing an obstacle in your own life right now, and life is not making a lot of sense, here are a few thoughts that may bring you encouragement:

  • Problems are often nothing more than brilliantly disguised opportunities.
  • Some things are impossible to not take personal- so set a period of time that you will allow yourself to feel the hurt or disappointment ( 5 minutes, 1 day, etc) and then shake the dust off of your feet and get back up.
  • Find one honest friend who will help you keep a healthy perspective when life doesn’t make sense.
  • Keep moving forward–do one thing TODAY that will help get you back on track.
  • Don’t allow self doubt to sabotage your goals and dreams.
  • Tomorrow is never a guarantee–make today the best day ever!

Each one of us has a great purpose, not just on the good days but also on the days that don’t make sense. Unlike a movie, an unexpected turn of events in our own lives is simply the end of a chapter, not the end of our story. Turn the page–start a new chapter. Stay the course.

In the wonderful, crazy world of real estate, I can help. It would be my honor to bring my expertise to the table in an industry chock full of brilliantly disguised opportunities!VMRE-2106-Edit








Going For The Gold

The 2016 Summer Olympics are currently underway as I write this blog.

Over the years my perspective toward the Olympics has changed depending on which lens my current life is able to view it through; it is true that we see other people not as they are, but as we are.

In my younger years I dreamed about what it might feel like to be an elite athlete, standing on the middle podium (my dream, my gold medal). I lower my head as the gold bling is placed around my neck, followed by the National Anthem ringing in my ears as the USA flag is raised with pride. 2014-07-16 17.06.16 2014-07-16 17.07.30

However, in my current “more experienced” hence more realistic season of life, I find myself mostly drawn to the humanity side of the Olympics–the focus is more clear through this lens in its ability to see the many athletes who put in thousands of hours of practice only to have their dreams fall apart in a millisecond in front of the entire world. These athletes are not failures; they are humans.

You may be wondering, “What does winning a medal or facing defeat have to do with real estate?”


As a Realtor, my clients trust me from start to finish to go the distance for them in selling or purchasing a property.  The baton of trust is placed in my capable hands with great hopes that I will not fail them.  Just like the Olympians, though my clients only see me, there is a large team of professionals in the mix, without whom my job would be impossible.

We have brokers and lenders and escrow officers. We have surveyors, engineers and photographers.  We call on roofers, contractors, plumbers and electricians. We have fellow realtors, underwriters, and assistants to assistants.

Yep, we all play to our strengths and when we work together, on the day that our clients become a homeowner for the first time or says his or her final good-bye to home that no longer fits–it’s almost as exciting as winning a Team USA gold medal.

Not all files make it to the finish line–we have our share of “fails.” The entire world doesn’t get to see our failed attempts but we feel them deeply just the same. We learn from the fails and we cheer each other on even when the baton falls out of our hands just short of the finish line.

I have been training diligently for over thirty years in the wonderful world of business. Give me a call or text (315-1086) or shoot me an email (sheila@valleymarket.com).

I assure you, no one will work harder for you than me (and my team)– from solid start to gold medal finish.